For Every Breakdown, There's a Breakthrough, a poem by Tony Haynes from Divorced & Scared No More! by Tasher

Divorced & Scared No More! Emotional Support for the Newly Divorced

Have you experienced Divorce? Are you questioning what your future will be after your vows of "I do" turn into "I do not" along with the loss of all the dreams that never will be fulfilled? Divorced and Scared No More: Emotional Support for the Newly Divorced is the first installment of the three-part trilogy written to assist readers in post-divorce related matters while providing you the motivation you need to move on.

Author Tasher speaks from personal experience; having gone through the many stages of relationships. This includes denial of a failed marriage, expressiveness needed to gain healing and how to remain emotionally grounded. You'll find ways to embrace your new found freedom and turn the lemons life threw at you into a Zesty Lemon Sorbet!

Therapist and clinical author Justin Nutt, LSCSW, LAC consulted as a technical advisor for the series. Insuring everything presented be accurate and quality material while still being a comforting, easy-to-read guide to surviving divorce.

Co-Author Tony Haynes is a practitioner of Acrostic Poetry -poetry where the first, last or other letters in a line spell out a particular word or phrase. At the end of each chapter, you can look forward to reading a clever poem from words found within the word DIVORCE. These are poetic thoughts that ask "How did I get here?" This rite of passage has everything to do with life and our stories affects each other because we are all connected. Now it's time to peek inside and see how, where & why our lives intersect.

There are so many insightful topics in the book, which will help you feel inspired to look inward and become aware of your needs to help you live again. There is still life after emotional death ... Isn't it time for you to be happily divorced and Divorced and Scared NO More?

Read the excerpt:

For Every Breakdown, There’s A Breakthrough

For every breakdown there’s a breakthrough

Over to the sunny side.

Life will take you down, but

Love will take you

On to pastures green and wide.

With every breakdown, there’s a breakthrough God provides.

Growth lays its stake down and remakes you

On the milk and honey side;

Does its shakedown, won’t forsake you

So growth is never satisfied.

For every breakdown, there’s a breakthrough

On the “tears-get-runny-side.”

Oh, what aches now?

This may hurt you.

Still once the saddest tear has dried

The happy ones you haven’t cried

Evoke the joys personified,

Proving the ride is worth the price when you “make do.”

So for every breakdown, there’s a break through.

—Tony Haynes

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About Tasher 

Tasher was divorced on her 26th wedding anniversary, and she embarked on a new life. Her marriage was broken all to pieces, she was not going to let the divorce break her. Tasher quickly discovered that single life was very different from all those years ago. Like many, she initially was scared. Yet she was determined to become Divorce and Scared NO More!

Despite her dyslexia, she decided to share with others things she learned while rebuilding her life. The launch of DASNM.com quickly received a worldwide following. The logo was inspired by a set of broken pilot wings. No two people will have identical situations, hopefully the DASNM series will assist others with the least amount of trepidation, during this difficult transition.

Tasher is not a professional therapist, rather she is sharing because she has "been there and done that" understanding how it FEELS. Therapist and clinical author Justin Nutt LSCSW, LAC consults as her technical advisor. Insuring everything presented be accurate and quality material while still being a comforting, easy-to-read guide to surviving divorce.

Words Can Either Harm or Heal ~ an excerpt from Divorced & Scared No More by Tasher & Tony Haynes

Divorced & Scared No More! Emotional Support for the Newly Divorced

Have you experienced Divorce? Are you questioning what your future will be after your vows of "I do" turn into "I do not" along with the loss of all the dreams that never will be fulfilled? Divorced and Scared No More: Emotional Support for the Newly Divorced is the first installment of the three-part trilogy written to assist readers in post-divorce related matters while providing you the motivation you need to move on.

Author Tasher speaks from personal experience; having gone through the many stages of relationships. This includes denial of a failed marriage, expressiveness needed to gain healing and how to remain emotionally grounded. You'll find ways to embrace your new found freedom and turn the lemons life threw at you into a Zesty Lemon Sorbet!

Therapist and clinical author Justin Nutt, LSCSW, LAC consulted as a technical advisor for the series. Insuring everything presented be accurate and quality material while still being a comforting, easy-to-read guide to surviving divorce.

Co-Author Tony Haynes is a practitioner of Acrostic Poetry -poetry where the first, last or other letters in a line spell out a particular word or phrase. At the end of each chapter, you can look forward to reading a clever poem from words found within the word DIVORCE. These are poetic thoughts that ask "How did I get here?" This rite of passage has everything to do with life and our stories affects each other because we are all connected. Now it's time to peek inside and see how, where & why our lives intersect.

There are so many insightful topics in the book, which will help you feel inspired to look inward and become aware of your needs to help you live again. There is still life after emotional death ... Isn't it time for you to be happily divorced and Divorced and Scared NO More?

Read the excerpt:

The words we say and hear can build us up or tear us down. The right words can even help you heal. During your divorce, you probably exchanged harsh remarks with your ex. The old saying “Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never harm me” is utterly false. Not only do the words we say affect us deeply, sticks do not hurt very much at all. When was the last time you got a broken bone from a stick? On the other hand, the words you hear or say can stay in your mind for a very long time. The emotional pain from hurtful words usually lasts much longer than it takes for any bruise or broken bone to heal. 

Guard yourself from harmful words, especially the ones you say to yourself. If you don’t want it to be your future, don’t say it. This means don’t think it silently in your head, either. There is no such thing as a “silent” thought. When you hear yourself say something negative in your head, tell yourself out loud, “That’s just old bad baggage I missed when cleaning the ex out of the house.” Of course, we will all have our vulnerable areas, but use words to build your self‑esteem instead of fostering a long-term belief in an untruth. 

You can’t un-ring a bell, and you can’t prevent what others say to you. You can, however, choose what you believe. When you hear someone say something critical or derogatory to you or about you, there’s no need to allow the words into your life. You decide what your truth is, not them. Why react to untruths? Choose the truthful uplifting words, not the bad words that have no place in your life. 

If you struggle with this, now would be a great time to sit down and make a list of ten positive statements about yourself. Whenever anyone compliments you, add his or her comments to your list, citing who said it, along with the date. Keep your list handy and read your list whenever someone says unkind words to you or you have an unkind thought about yourself. In the latter case, repeat the positive statement as often as you need to so that you believe it and erase the negative opinion. 

Every time you speak to others, try to use positive words. By building others up, you will start building yourself up. You will become a positive and happier person. You will see more color in the world, not just the black and grey you may be feeling. Anytime you think something positive, say it. You never know; you might just make someone else’s day. Being kind will certainly never hurt you. 

When you hear bad things said about you or to you, do not let them get you down. Very often when people say and do unkind things, it is because they are insecure about themselves and their lives or actions. In order to make themselves feel better, some people choose to belittle others because they believe this will make them superior people, or at least feel like superior people. There are also people who project their undesirable feelings onto someone else instead of dealing with those feelings themselves. Remember the old saying, “When you are pointing at someone, there are three more fingers pointing back at you.” Other people may say negative things because they are sad and unhappy. Then there are people who are just bad people, and bad people say and do bad things. Reconsider their place in your life right now. Finally, there are people who were never taught good manners. 

When people say bad things, it is always more a reflection of them than it is of you. Happy people usually do not resort to saying or doing things that harm others. They typically prefer to stay positive and say and do uplifting things for others. If someone’s comment bothers you, take a moment and think; is there any part of what they said that’s true? Is there something you would like to change? If it bothers you and there is something you can do about it, take action.
Most often, however, you need to treat these comments and bad words like a foreign language you must seize and translate in your head. Here are a few of examples how to translate what someone says to you; hopefully you will start coming up with your own very soon. 

If someone says to you, “You’re not pretty, young, or sexy enough for me,” translate it to, “You are so comfortable with yourself. I wish I could find that feeling of tranquility inside me.” How about “You’re just dumb”? Translated, it becomes, “I wish I could see the wonder of the world through your eyes.” You can make “You are fat and eat too much” become “What a person! Defying society and eating the way one wants to. I wish I had the courage to tell this person how exceedingly proud I am of her for defying social conventions.” 

You are in charge of the translations; it is time to make yourself the shining star of every comment made. You deserve it! Translating negative comments can even become your own secret language. We all deserve a language filled with special words we truly believe in and live by. 

Now that you have learned to translate (and how easy was that? It took me four years to learn a little French, but this is a snap!), give your response to the negative commenter in your head as you walk away. You really do not need to waste your breath and words on people who say and do these things to you. So hold your head high and for an extra little kick put one of the “If you only knew what I am thinking” kind of smiles on your face. It will drive the other person crazy because you are not giving them the reaction they wanted. 

Do not allow criticism, self-doubt, or some other weight around the neck to bring you down. I would like to say you are a beautiful strong person and I believe in you. 

The soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit.

—Proverbs 15:4 (NIV)

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About Tasher 

Tasher was divorced on her 26th wedding anniversary, and she embarked on a new life. Her marriage was broken all to pieces, she was not going to let the divorce break her. Tasher quickly discovered that single life was very different from all those years ago. Like many, she initially was scared. Yet she was determined to become Divorce and Scared NO More!

Despite her dyslexia, she decided to share with others things she learned while rebuilding her life. The launch of DASNM.com quickly received a worldwide following. The logo was inspired by a set of broken pilot wings. No two people will have identical situations, hopefully the DASNM series will assist others with the least amount of trepidation, during this difficult transition.

Tasher is not a professional therapist, rather she is sharing because she has "been there and done that" understanding how it FEELS. Therapist and clinical author Justin Nutt LSCSW, LAC consults as her technical advisor. Insuring everything presented be accurate and quality material while still being a comforting, easy-to-read guide to surviving divorce.

Read an inspirational excerpt from Divorced and Scared No More! by Tasher & Tony Haynes

Divorced & Scared No More! Emotional Support for the Newly Divorced

Have you experienced Divorce? Are you questioning what your future will be after your vows of "I do" turn into "I do not" along with the loss of all the dreams that never will be fulfilled? Divorced and Scared No More: Emotional Support for the Newly Divorced is the first installment of the three-part trilogy written to assist readers in post-divorce related matters while providing you the motivation you need to move on.

Author Tasher speaks from personal experience; having gone through the many stages of relationships. This includes denial of a failed marriage, expressiveness needed to gain healing and how to remain emotionally grounded. You'll find ways to embrace your new found freedom and turn the lemons life threw at you into a Zesty Lemon Sorbet!

Therapist and clinical author Justin Nutt, LSCSW, LAC consulted as a technical advisor for the series. Insuring everything presented be accurate and quality material while still being a comforting, easy-to-read guide to surviving divorce.

Co-Author Tony Haynes is a practitioner of Acrostic Poetry -poetry where the first, last or other letters in a line spell out a particular word or phrase. At the end of each chapter, you can look forward to reading a clever poem from words found within the word DIVORCE. These are poetic thoughts that ask "How did I get here?" This rite of passage has everything to do with life and our stories affects each other because we are all connected. Now it's time to peek inside and see how, where & why our lives intersect.

There are so many insightful topics in the book, which will help you feel inspired to look inward and become aware of your needs to help you live again. There is still life after emotional death ... Isn't it time for you to be happily divorced and Divorced and Scared NO More?

Read this inspirational excerpt:

Shortly before dawn Jesus went out to them, walking on the lake. When the disciples saw him walking on the lake, they were terrified. “It’s a ghost,” they said, and cried out in fear. But Jesus immediately said to them: “Take courage! It is I. Don’t be afraid.” 

“Lord, if it’s you,” Peter replied, “tell me to come to you on the water.” “Come,” he said. 

Peter got down out of the boat, walked on the water and came toward Jesus. But when he saw the wind, he was afraid and, beginning to sink, cried out, “Lord, save me!” 

Immediately Jesus reached out his hand and caught him. “You of little faith,” he said, “why did you doubt?”

—Matthew 14:25–30 (NIV)

Let’s just take a moment and think about Peter when he got out of the boat because Jesus asked him to. He put his faith in Jesus when he became afraid and started to sink. He called out for Jesus to help him while the other disciples sat safely in the boat and did not risk going to Jesus. They leaned on the boat, but Peter leaned on his faith and higher power. 

Faith helps you let go of the ordinary for a little while so God can do something better. Why are you holding onto pain and bad feelings? This is an adventure of faith! Life is difficult; you have been knocked out of the safe boat. Now it’s time to let your faith grow with each step and remember you, too, can reach out as Peter did. Leave the past behind you, and open yourself to what God has waiting for you. It should be pretty wonderful. It is God, after all. 

I have heard people give Peter a hard time for what he did that day. I guess, as is the case with many things, I view Peter’s story differently; he took the risk, believed, and tried. Peter’s faith did get shaken, but he called to Jesus, requesting help. I think this is an example of what real true faith is: facing fears and taking the risk, knowing a higher power is there to help if you are in need. There are great rewards outside the boat. It is time to take the step outside. I am a Christian, so I am referring to my faith, but whatever you choose to believe in, this is the time for you to strengthen your resolve and let the Higher Power guide you to something better. 

One of the most challenging and difficult life lessons I have learned is that we need to allow ourselves to have enough faith to surrender ourselves and our affairs to a power bigger than us. Interestingly, many people reach out to this higher power when there is difficulty in their lives and ask for immediate emergency help. They do not communicate with God until the next emergency happens. How interesting and rewarding would it be to trust this higher power on a daily basis, sharing our joy and success with God, as well as our struggles? I know I like to hear the joy in my child’s voice when they tell me about something that filled them with happiness. 

I really enjoy talking to God while I am driving. There are no distractions, and I can let everything out without anyone hearing me. Oh, how I love our special time together. Sometimes he even answers back with a GodWink, which SQuire Rushnell explains is a coincidence or message of reassurance from God directly to you, like a sign on the side of the road.

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About Tasher 

Tasher was divorced on her 26th wedding anniversary, and she embarked on a new life. Her marriage was broken all to pieces, she was not going to let the divorce break her. Tasher quickly discovered that single life was very different from all those years ago. Like many, she initially was scared. Yet she was determined to become Divorce and Scared NO More!

Despite her dyslexia, she decided to share with others things she learned while rebuilding her life. The launch of DASNM.com quickly received a worldwide following. The logo was inspired by a set of broken pilot wings. No two people will have identical situations, hopefully the DASNM series will assist others with the least amount of trepidation, during this difficult transition.

Tasher is not a professional therapist, rather she is sharing because she has "been there and done that" understanding how it FEELS. Therapist and clinical author Justin Nutt LSCSW, LAC consults as her technical advisor. Insuring everything presented be accurate and quality material while still being a comforting, easy-to-read guide to surviving divorce.

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Have you experienced Divorce? Are you questioning what your future will be after your vows of "I do" turn into "I do not" along with the loss of all the dreams that never will be fulfilled? Divorced and Scared No More: Emotional Support for the Newly Divorced is the first installment of the three-part trilogy written to assist readers in post-divorce related matters while providing you the motivation you need to move on.

Author Tasher speaks from personal experience; having gone through the many stages of relationships. This includes denial of a failed marriage, expressiveness needed to gain healing and how to remain emotionally grounded. You'll find ways to embrace your new found freedom and turn the lemons life threw at you into a Zesty Lemon Sorbet!

Therapist and clinical author Justin Nutt, LSCSW, LAC consulted as a technical advisor for the series. Insuring everything presented be accurate and quality material while still being a comforting, easy-to-read guide to surviving divorce.

Co-Author Tony Haynes is a practitioner of Acrostic Poetry -poetry where the first, last or other letters in a line spell out a particular word or phrase. At the end of each chapter, you can look forward to reading a clever poem from words found within the word DIVORCE. These are poetic thoughts that ask "How did I get here?" This rite of passage has everything to do with life and our stories affects each other because we are all connected. Now it's time to peek inside and see how, where & why our lives intersect.

There are so many insightful topics in the book, which will help you feel inspired to look inward and become aware of your needs to help you live again. There is still life after emotional death ... Isn't it time for you to be happily divorced and Divorced and Scared NO More?

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About Tasher 

Tasher was divorced on her 26th wedding anniversary, and she embarked on a new life. Her marriage was broken all to pieces, she was not going to let the divorce break her. Tasher quickly discovered that single life was very different from all those years ago. Like many, she initially was scared. Yet she was determined to become Divorce and Scared NO More!

Despite her dyslexia, she decided to share with others things she learned while rebuilding her life. The launch of DASNM.com quickly received a worldwide following. The logo was inspired by a set of broken pilot wings. No two people will have identical situations, hopefully the DASNM series will assist others with the least amount of trepidation, during this difficult transition.

Tasher is not a professional therapist, rather she is sharing because she has "been there and done that" understanding how it FEELS. Therapist and clinical author Justin Nutt LSCSW, LAC consults as her technical advisor. Insuring everything presented be accurate and quality material while still being a comforting, easy-to-read guide to surviving divorce.

'Being Family: The get-along guide for in-laws' by Lori Phillips

Being Family: The get along guide for in-laws

by Lori Phillips

In-law relationships can be the most difficult, and they can destroy otherwise happy marriages, too. By seeing things from each other's perspective, you'll gain the understanding you need to let down your guard and open your hearts to new family members. 

This simple little book is filled with truths that can transform your family relationships.

A must-read for soon-to-be-weds, newlyweds and even long-time marrieds. Makes a terrific gift.

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In the beginning...
I always hated in-law jokes. And when I got married, I knew why. Getting along with your in-laws is no laughing matter. I always felt that family was your first and last line of defense against the cold, cruel world. You stick together. But, I learned that a wedding ring and a marriage license don’t create family ties. People do. Real love takes time to cultivate. What is perplexing to me is how many families never give in-laws a chance from the start.

For some people, in-law problems start at the beginning. “She’s always hated me!” “I never liked him.” For others, trouble creeps up and takes them by surprise. “Everything was fine until we/they got married/had the baby!” What triggers this combat? Human beings are like pack animals. It is natural instinct to protect their own pack, and it is a long process before a new creature is allowed in. We are suspicious of strangers. They’re fine at a distance, which is why no one seems to put up defenses during the dating phase. But marriage is a commitment that makes everyone wary. Is this person going to fit into our family? Is he or she good enough? How will this change us? Is this a family threat?

A human parent’s instinct is to love and protect its young for the rest of its life. And, if he or she relishes the role, it will not be easy to hand over this responsibility to someone else, especially a young, inexperienced person. A parent will not adjust easily to being second in its child’s life. A parent must come to terms with this, but it is not easy or pleasant. It hurts. For new, young wives and husbands, the change is equally hard. Just starting out, they’ve broken away from their own families to live independent lives. They busy themselves creating their new families, making decisions, choosing their lifestyles. This freedom is exciting! They now have their own little family or pack to protect and nurture. They do not appreciate outsiders telling them how to run their lives. This is all new to the young family. They don’t realize that someday their own little offspring will set off to start his own family and they’ll want to be a part of their grown child’s life, too. They’re too busy to think that far ahead. But they should.

…it’s all about territory
What people fail to understand is that when children marry, their pack increases. Yes, you gain a family member. You don’t lose one. Unless someone makes the choice to leave. The new couple may move off to sleep in their own hut, but emotionally, they still belong to your extended clan. We want our opinions, methods, traditions or advice to matter to our loved ones. We want our share of attention. Everyone wants to be loved.

But what sets humans above the rest of the animal kingdom is our ability to reason. Isn’t it reasonable to accept and adapt to the natural changes in family life? There comes a time when the grown child needs a spouse more than a mother or father. A parent simply can’t fulfill those needs. But a wise spouse will make room for parents in heart and home as well.

The honeymoon period
Well, you might not cart along your in-laws on your honeymoon like my brother-in-law did (yes, he is definitely “family”) but you’ll still go through a honeymoon period with them. During this time, everyone still treats you like the new special guest. Everything you do will be charming…or interesting, at least. And just like a honeymoon, everything will be wonderful. Sooner or later, the novelty of your newness will wear off. As time goes on, any differences in your lifestyle that were interesting in the past grow tiresome or odd. The new person is expected to fit in and adapt, not the other way around. If he doesn’t, it is perceived as a threat to the status quo. New ways challenge the traditions that people hold dear. Melding two new families together means adapting and changing, and people aren’t always comfortable with that.

It pays to make it work Just as a marital relationship requires effort, good relationships with your in-laws take some effort, too. Why bother when you can simply ignore their phone calls? Because there are great rewards in a strong, loving family bond. And the penalties of a bad relationship with those who are genetically and/or legally tied to you can be hell on your heart and seriously diminish the quality of your life. The choice is yours.

So roll up your sleeves and check your ego at the door. This may not be easy, but it will be worth the effort.

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Lori Phillips writes about relationships, health and spirituality. She lives in Southern California with her husband, children and three irresistible Chihuahua mixes they adopted from the local animal shelter.

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I was 23 when I was finally ready to get married. By then, the year was 1986, and none of the guys I knew wanted to tie the knot! One who I wanted to marry said:

"Children are the only reason I can see to get married, and I don't want any of those."

Saddened, I slowly let go of him and moved on. After that, I guess I was getting long in the tooth. By the time I was in my late 20s, men were no longer begging me to marry them. The stakes had decreased considerably.

In 1989, a guy pursued me urgently, sending roses even. Expecting a proposal, I asked him what he wanted, and he told me:

"I want to buy a house with you."

"Oh." (Is that all? That's not very appealing!)

In 1990, a man who was a bit of a player had the chance to propose, and said:

"I want you to be my one and only girlfriend."

Nuh Uh.

I finally did get married in 1994, and like I said, I was 31 years old. It took me eight years to find him, once I made up my mind that I wanted a husband and not just another boyfriend. For me, that's what it took: I just needed to stick to the decision that I was not going to have another boyfriend. I was only going to have a husband.

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